It has been ages since I’ve had a chance to review a book for any sort of blogging platform. And while I’ve been reading like a crazy person, I haven’t taken to reviewing one in a very long time. But I just finished Spinster by Kate Bolick, and oh. em. gee., I need to talk about it ASAP.
Spinster is about Kate Bolick’s realizations that she will probably never want to get married. Having had that realization at a young age, Bolick talks about her various relationship experiences through the eyes of the people she become to see as those cut from the same cloth, or as she calls them, her “awakeners”. She discusses women such as Edna St. Vincent Millay, Neith Boyce, and Edith Wharton through the eyes of their writing, as well as their personal relationships.
And through this, Kate Bolick has become one of my awakeners. I have never been one to really think too much about marriage. I’ve never necessarily sought out the idea of being married, or having a family (although never say never), and for some reason I always sort of felt like there was something wrong with me for this.
It’s so ingrained within our society to find a partner to share our lives with, and while this is a great idea, it’s nice to know that there are a lot of people out there who don’t see this as a be all and end all of our lives.
Bolick turns the word spinster into a positive term instead of the negative one that it is usually associated with. She discusses the history of the term, and how by accepting and becoming comfortable with the term, we can take it back and own it as one of our own. We can manage to take this idea that has so easily made us social outcasts, and revitalize it into a creation of a life we are comfortable with. A life of our choosing, and of our own.
It’s a book that has resonated with me, and stuck to me like glue. To check it out, pick up a copy here! I’d love to know what you think!